No family should have to experience the loss of a child. If you recently experienced the loss of a baby during pregnancy or in early infancy, the Fetal and Infant Mortality Review project offers our deepest sympathy.

Please know that you do not have to go through it alone; most hospitals’ protocols include immediate, short-term and long-term bereavement support for the mother and family. Infant loss support groups are available in the Oklahoma City metro area and meet regularly. They provide a safe haven for families in an understanding environment. Here is a brochure of available support groups and other resources.

Whether your loss occurred during pregnancy or after birth, you may go through a variety of reactions, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. It is important to remember that your reactions are not right or wrong, good or bad. They are individual to you and a necessary part of healing.

You may feel:

• Confused
• Irritable or anxious
• Guilt or anger
• Fatigue, exhaustion, or lack of energy
• Stronger in your faith or question your faith
• Decreased or increased appetite
• Deep sadness
• Sleep deprived or have difficulty sleeping
• Decreased concentration or absent-mindedness

It is important to take care of yourself. Here are some simple suggestions:

• Get plenty of rest
• Take walks or exercise – Physical activity is a good way to reduce stress
• Eat well and drink plenty of water
• Avoid alcohol and other drugs not prescribed by your doctor
• Talk with others. Express your feelings. Cry.
• Get support from family, friends, or church. Join a support group.
• Give yourself permission to feel the pain and loss.
• Be patient with yourself. Don’t expect to “get over it.”